12. Thursday. Family law and Mark Zetin
My beautiful Byron,
Its 20 December, just five days to Christmas which will be one thing for you and quite another for me.
Of course for the third year in a row I can’t even send you a present in the post because the judgment of Michele O’Leary exists. I have already explained my feeling about British Family law and child abuse and I do not want to risk the vengeance of British family law impacting on you, so instead, this year I have made you a Christmas song. Which you can enjoy this Christmas, or any other time when you are able to.
I spent most of the day yesterday choosing pictures that I think you will like and I assembled them for a YouTube video. I used a song I wrote with my friend Hugo. The song is about four minutes long so I tried to put in as many pictures as possible to run in time with the song.
Of course, I have so many pictures of you it was a real task to choose which pictures to include. And I am sure I missed lots of great ones along the way, but I hope you enjoy the ones I picked I tried to make them from sweet memories. And we have so many of those.
Almost 38 years since we shared a house together in Johannesburg, a 500 acre property right next to the Lion park. Some nights we could hear lions roaring when we got home from work. Our work was entertaining people. Playing the guitar and singing. We were both very young and had lots of hair and could play the guitar and sing well enough to get people to pay us loads of dosh. During the days I spent a lot of time learning how to record things and make them sound nice. We lived in that lovely house for three years and then I moved to England while Hugo stayed in South Africa for a few more years before he also left. He chose to go to Los Angeles. And for the next thirty years or so, we didn’t see each other much.
The whole story of that friendship is Here
When I moved to America in 2014, after the old house flooded and Michele O’Leary made a judgment that meant I had no home in the UK, I ended up just down the road from Hugo’s home in California. So we started hanging out together gain. Remember he gave you that professional mouth harp? He was very excited to meet you on your trip to California.
So when he heard about Michele O’Leary and Tom Amlot, he was a lot like everyone else. Gobsmacked is the word. People just couldn’t believe the nonsense they were hearing from family court. That is especially true of people who have known me a long time. Who know that I do love my son very much and have a lot of qualities to offer as a father. Makes the O’Leary/Amlot/Adler decision a great deal worse. Implying that somehow you are better off without me in your life because that is what O’Leary decided suits her version of the truth. (While stealing £3 million pounds from me in the process.)
Although he is a friend of mine, Hugo is also a father. He has raised his son, Donovan, and knows what it means to be a father and to love your child. So as you can imagine, he was heartbroken by the story of what family law did to you. And especially by the thought that they believed they could stop you from ever knowing what they did.
That’s quite a big concept.
When O’Leary, Amlot and Adler presented their case they knew that what they were doing was wrong. That is not an opinion of mine. It is a fact borne out by the facts of the matter.
To protect themselves from being called to account they rely on family law secrecy acts. (Particularly section 12 of The Administration of Justice Act 1960.) At the time the court case was going on I could not believe they would ever get away with it. After all, the entire case was never more than obvious fraud. And its not as if they were not told. I had a Doctor in America, Mark Zetin, who followed the story in fine detail. I had a doctor in Britain, my GP, who provided a whole record of events there. I had a witness, my financial advisor who had the actual documents to show a fraud was being committed. But more about that another day. I only have two hours today.
Mark was very experienced Psychiatrist who knew a lot about child psychology and the effects of early life trauma on their neural pathways. Mark took a real interest in your case. Although I was a client of his, (He was recommended to me as a leading psychiatrist in California, to help me with grief counseling, because I was so sad about what O’Leary, Amlot and Adler did to you.)
Mark went far past just taking money for advice. (And he was pretty expensive being a top guy.) He even visited me at my home and showed real compassion and interest in your case. So much so that he wrote a letter to help assist Michele O’Leary understand that her judgment was in fact child abuse. And to explain in professional terms, from a leading medical professional in this area, why O’Leary, Amlot and Adler were wrong to abuse your rights in the way they did. He spelled it out in medical terms. Child abuse by family court is wrong and detrimental to the child’s best interests.
Do you know, from this man, all O’Leary, Amlot and Adler had to do is listen. Because his experience in child psychology and what is best for the child is so far above theirs, only the vanity of an ignorant fool would suggest they knew more about what was in the child’s best interests. What do you suppose they did with all that advice on how to choose the best option for a child of 5, as you were at the time of that Court hearing? O’Leary was busy getting popular on Twitter. Obviously too busy to read high level medical advice from a leading American medical professional commenting on her work.
Mark Zetin was not the only medical professional with a legal background who spoke up for you at that time.
Sadly, O’Leary, Amlot and Adler prevailed despite the highest good for the child being very clearly presented to them.
To get away with this fraud they relied on their law disincentivizing me from ever telling you what happened. However, as you know, I didn’t just fall off the turnip truck and I took advice from very smart people. I believe it is your right to know what happened and who did what. And that any attempt to prevent that happening simply compounds historical child abuse.
I am hoping, as I always tend to do with difficult decisions, to find the best case outcome to what has happened to us. And perhaps that is in telling the story to stop other children being affected the way you were. There is still a wonderful life ahead for you. I do believe, eventually, the culprits will be jailed.
And in the meanwhile, thanks to Hugo, and the many wonderful friends who played their part in recording the story of Amlot/Adler and O’Leary, with the guest performance by barrister Simon Webster, whatever happens, one day you will know who did what. And why.
Hugo is a special friend for all that he has put into helping you to be with me. And I hope next Christmas we will all be together.
Here is our song Family Law.